Senioritis – Connecting with Kids

Senioritis

High
school seniors everywhere suffer from a classic case of senioritis,
a disease that seems to swarm over second semester seniors every spring.

“You
start doing other things besides doing your work, and you feel like
going out and watching movies,” explains seventeen-year-old Jill.

For
second semester seniors, the lack of motivation for studies is often
replaced by a motivation for something else, to carve out a lasting
high school memory beyond having their head in a book.

“In
some ways you do need to give them a little bit more room to do some
of the things they feel they need to do with these last few months at
home, these last few weeks of school,” says senior advisor Lasley
Gober.

But
if students’ grades fall too far, they do risk their college admissions.
Every year high level colleges turn back a handful of students they
had accepted. Experts say parents should strike a balance. Accept that
their child’s grades may slide, but make it clear what the consequences
are if they slide too far.

Gober
explains, “That they have to go to summer school and that when
they walk across the stage they won’t get a real diploma, they
get a piece of paper that says `see you in summer school’.”

“You
start doing other things besides doing your work, and you feel like going
out and watching movies.”

– Jill,
age 17

 

WHAT
PARENTS SHOULD KNOW

Spring is here! Flowers
and trees are in bloom and the feeling of relaxing in the warm sun is
on everyone’s mind. This is especially true for high school seniors.
For those college-bound seniors, the time between their acceptance to
college and graduation can be playtime. Worries about getting into their
choice of schools are over and working hard to make the grades doesn’t
seem necessary. Homework can start to slide; skipping classes and slacking
off on responsibilities at home are sure signs of “senioritis”.

But, colleges are
clueing in to this. There has been a marked increase in recent years among
selective universities who are checking to see that students they have
admitted are keeping up their grades. There is also the concern that these
students are dropping necessary prep courses needed for college entry.
Most colleges reserve the right to revoke admission and with colleges
receiving far more applications than slots available, there is a need
for concern.

What
Are The Symptoms?

  • Anger at
    being asked to do things at home.
  • Inability
    to sit or stand still
  • Fighting
    with close friends and parents
  • Confusion
    — wanting to come across older but acting younger.
  • Being scared,
    but unable to say so.
  • Being emotional
    — from tears to smiles in minutes
  • Feeling that
    they don’t need your help but get upset when you don’t
    help.
  • General hostility

 

Sources:
National Sleep Foundation; sleep researchers

Handling
the Stress

Parents should
know that this is a very difficult time in an adolescent’s
life. They are realizing that they will be leaving home soon, as
well as leaving friends and an established identity. They want to
capture all the memorable moments from their high school years and
this is important for them to do. Help them with the transition
by giving them something tangible to hold onto. This could be a
collection of photos, letters or audio tape from friends and family
members that can serve as a reminder of their strengths as they
set out on their own.

They need you
as a trusted consultant more than ever before. They also need you
to hold them to the limits and structures established for them.
Your positive influences towards them will only enhance their self—esteem,
making this time less stressful for them.

Resources

iVillage/Parents Place.com –

High Wired.com

USA Today

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