Preventing Suicide

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Education Feature

Preventing Suicide

By Yvette J. Brown
CWK Network

 

“Don’t be afraid to talk about it. One of the things we’re fearful of is if mention suicide or depression that we’re going to introduce that idea to children. That’s not the case at all.”
-Christine Daley, Ph.D, School Psychologist-

15-year old Amber was depressed. In just a year, she’d lost both her uncle and her grandfather.

“I would just sit in my room and cry and cry,” she remembers. “I would think, ‘Why do I have to be here? Why couldn’t it be me [who] died?’”

The turning point for Amber was a video she watched in class called “Signs of Suicide” or S.O.S, a program about depression and suicide.

According to the Journal of Public Health, the S-O-S program is making a dramatic difference: suicide attempts dropped by forty-percent in the five U.S. schools studied, including Amber’s.

“I think the power of it is that it does reach kids with kids,” says Dr. Christine Daley, the psychologist who brought the program to Amber’s school district in Columbus, Georgia. “They get a chance to hear from their peers about what they’ve experienced and it gives them the tools to recognize these signs in themselves and in their family members.”

Researchers say the program works because it teaches kids about depression, a precursor to suicide.

By bringing the issue to the forefront, students are able to recognize depression in themselves and their friends and then get help if they need it. Experts say parents can do the same thing for their kids.

“Don’t be afraid to talk about it,” says Dr. Daley. “One of the things we’re fearful of is that if we talk about or if we mention suicide or depression that we’re going to introduce that idea to children. That’s not the case at all.”

Amber says she never really considered suicide. But her friends worried about her depression. After watching the video, they convinced her to ask for professional help. It made a difference in her life.

She says, “I feel happy-happy that I’m here-happy that I [have] friends [who] care about me.”

 

By Larry Eldridge, Jr.
CWK Network, Inc.

Some teenagers feel so overwhelmed with what they are experiencing that they believe their only escape is through suicide. Many parents and friends may not know there is a problem, however, until it is already too late. The risk of suicide may become evident to others if they know the warning signs of suicide. They include …

  • Suicide notes
  • Extreme depression
  • Previous suicide attempts
  • Drastic changes in mood, behaviors or tendencies
  • References to death or dying
  • Extremely risky behavior
  • Giving away meaningful possessions
 

By Larry Eldridge, Jr.
CWK Network, Inc.

Intervention may be the best way to prevent suicide. If your child suspects a friend of having suicidal thoughts or tendencies, share with them the following options, developed by the National Association of School Psychologists.

  • Know the warning signs! Read over the list above and keep it in a safe place.
  • Do not be afraid to talk to your friends. Listen to their feelings. Make sure they know how important they are to you, but don’t believe you can keep them from hurting themselves on your own. Preventing suicide will require adult help.
  • Make no deals. Never keep secret a friend’s suicidal plans or thoughts. You cannot promise that you will not tell – you have to tell to save your friend.
  • Tell an adult. Talk to your parent, your friend’s parent, your school’s psychologist or counselor – a trusted adult. And don’t wait. Don’t be afraid that the adults will not believe you or take you seriously – keep talking until they listen. Even if you are not sure your friend is suicidal, talk to someone. It’s okay if you “jump the gun” – this is definitely the time to be safe and not sorry.
  • Ask if your school has a crisis team. Many schools have organized crisis teams, which include teachers, counselors, social workers, psychologists and principals. These teams help train all staff to recognize warning signs of suicide, as well as how to help in a crisis situation. These teams can also help students understand warning signs of violence and suicide. If your school does not have a crisis team, ask your student council or faculty advisor to look into starting a team.

If you suspect your child of considering suicide, be sure to act quickly and take it seriously. Many times, the main factor leading kids to consider suicide is depression. If you suspect your child is struggling with depression, consider sharing with him/her the following suggestions, created by Teen Contact.

  • Get help. Talk to someone that can help you get the help you need. Depression is a serious condition.
  • Be active. Exercise daily and be around people. Don’t isolate yourself.
  • Monitor your eating habits and make sure you’re eating a healthy diet.
  • Consult a doctor.
  • Don’t make any big decisions while you are depressed. You’re probably not thinking clearly. Also, don’t accept any additional responsibility while you are feeling depressed. Keep your tasks manageable.
  • Change takes time. It probably took you a while to get depressed, so realize that it will probably take a while to feel better.
  • Start using positive thinking and positive self-talk with yourself. Negative thinking plays a big part in depression. When you catch yourself thinking negatively, turn it around. This takes practice, but keep it up.
  • Do some volunteer work. Helping others can help you, too.

The National Association of School Psychologists
Focus Adolescent Services
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